Blogger: Hue Yeen

I remembered when I was young, at the age around 12 to 17; I used to say “Friendship Forever” to all my friends. When I said it that time, I really meant it. But now, how many of them are still remain “active” in my life? What makes us forgot what we once promised to each other? In fact, all that answers to those questions are not important. If you can find one good friend that can understand and support you the most, we should be glad that we have her or him.

Not that long, just about 5 years ago. Something happened on me and somehow it was a big decision for me to choose between death or alive. I will never forget the scene where everyone’s eyes full of tears standing in front of me. I received few cards from some friends which were saying that “You helped me a lot in my life, but now I can’t help you anything for the painful you are feeling right now. I wish I were the one to withstand all the painfulness.” That was the extra gift that I’ve received. Why is it being extra? It was because when I took all my heart to help my friends, it was just purely helping and never hoping for anything in return. I used to be a good listener who tried to help them reduce their problems to zero. I liked to help but never once I give the chance for them to help. Therefore, when I was facing a major transition in my life, many of them wish to repay for what I have done to help them. However, they told me, they had this feeling in their heart – “I just want to help you, not because of repay for anything.” I feel touched. At the same time, I realized that people can feel your sincerity whenever you take your “heart” out to help them. Sometimes, it’s not so important to care whether you are being helpful or not, because, people will appreciate it and keep the appreciation in their heart.

Many people usually say that having a best friend is always better than having whole bunch of so called Hi Bye friends. I totally agree with it. So, people out there, if you always being sick because of lack of friends in your life, I can tell you that 100 friends cannot compare with 1 good friend. If you have one best friend, you would understand what I meant. My principle to be a good friend to someone is to be myself and never interfered with his or her personal matters. I ever seen how someone interfere too much in someone’s life and so I understand how is that feel. This is how things happened: A wanted to know what B does in everyday life, expected B tell A all the secrets. If didn’t do it? Show you the “black face”. Hello! Am I born to report everything to you? If you do not like being control by someone, then you would understand it does not feel good when you are controlling by someone.

To end my post, something for you all to think of is, since nothing can be lasted forever, so what is the point for us to be so stubborn on something? Friendship is the same; we all know that it will not last for decades, so what keeps us to hold a strong believe in maintaining a good friendship? After all, it will disappear one day. People come and go in different stages of our life. Take the chance to treasure them and let it go when there is the time.